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In fact, I'll go out on a limb and say that if your relationship is a serious drag on your commitment to obeying Christ's commands to gather with the body, this is actually killing your relationship with Jesus, and is therefore, by definition, not a “Christian” relationship. Women, you want a man who has solid, healthy relationships with other men in the body of Christ.Be as jealous for his time with body as you are about his time with you.Even today in the cultures of the Middle East, dating is a relatively new concept.The modern-day concept of “dating” looked far different 2,000 years ago.Finally, we need to hear an outside word that we can't quickly rationalize, twist, distort, or ignore. If your relationship becomes the center of their faith, the main and only encouragement they have in Christ, something has gone wrong. All four stand on their own as solid reasons to be committed to gathering (and being a member of) a local body.Who is there to support and encourage when you're having a bad day, or when your relationship needs a check because it's gone off the rails into sin? Even the best married couples need other, godly voices speaking wisdom, conviction, comfort, and healing grace into their lives. Whether you're a Baptist, Anglican, or Presbyterian, you want to be regularly reminded that Christ alone is the source of spiritual life—he died, rose again, and our union with him is the only true food for your soul. Yet all four play an important function with respect to your relationship to each other.
But though Scriptures are filled with foundational life-changing truths, there are still some topics that are left untouched when it comes to finding a biblical perspective.Indeed, I don't know a single godly couple who would tell you otherwise. We need to feast on this truth regularly, or we will be tempted to draw strength from other, lesser sources, like your own relationship. First, they do the negative work of preventing the greatest danger in any “Christian” dating relationship—no, not sexual sin, but the human tendency to make an idol out of the beloved.Usually this idolatry justifies sexual sin and so many other relational pathologies.Though the bible doesn’t talk directly about dating, it does speak volumes about relationships, godly interactions, and principles that can be applied to how you date.In fact, a portion of my book, (Zondervan, 2013), is dedicated to examining how to apply these principles to real-life situations.